beautflstranger:

what makes a good submissive really good?

 anyone can kneel and bow. anyone can be bound or cuffed. anyone can scene.

but you are not just anyone.

you carry with you and in you a profound gift..your submission.

Which attributes make an attractive submissive?

strength, selflessness and self respect are the foundation

to which one would add patience, grace and intelligence which when combined , create a highly attuned woman who will stimulate her Dominant physically, mentally and emotionally.

Not challenge, but stimulate on all those levels.

You are both embarking upon a journey. the development of a submissive takes time.

even Rome wasn’t built in a day.

i like to use the metaphor of a stone which begins with rough edges, and through time and the effects of winds, sand and rains, becomes a thing of sensual tactile beauty.

And so it is with a submissive.

Through time all those edges become highly polished and so sensuous , that another wishes to touch, hold, admire and prize it.

your gifts of devotion, love, admiration are the most highly sought by a Dominant.

So choose carefully and wisely.

Cherish what you are and to whom you share yourself and with whom your gifts are bestowed.

your gifts are to be earned through trust, love, communication and understanding.

When you come from a place of love, the level of your gift is so much more profound and with greater depth.

When you come from a place of trust, your limits will know no bounds.

When you come from a place of communication, a foundation is constructed for a solid relationship.

When you come from a place of understanding, you will come to know yourself and in doing so, will come to understand your Dominant richly.

How you choose to live your submission and to what extent you choose to submit is entirely up to you.

Limits are to be explored, tasted, and abandoned. ‘

To abandon all limits means that you and your Dominant have established a highly attuned, trusting and loving relationship.

No one should expect you to abandon your limits immediately.

No one should expect you to give up what is inherently you.

No one should expect you to become a doormat.

No one should demand of you.

What you are sharing with your Dominant is a priviledge.

There has to be mutual love & respect.

To hear your Dominant tell you that He has waited a lifetime for one such as you, is the ultimate for a submissive.

His words, thoughts and actions will further reinforce that.

you are multi-layered.

it is not just about serving ~ it is about to whom you serve.

it is not just about submitting ~ it is about to whom you choose to submit.

your patience and strength are your most enduring virtues.

develop who you are, on every level.

nuture your mind, read..and read some more, write, develop interests, have thoughts, opinions, ideas, be your own person.

physically maintain your health through exercise and diet.

expand your spirituality. believe in something.

attune yourself to nature and stand in awe of the wonder of it all.

be curious about the world around you, every beautiful facet of it.

be that woman of quality.

 be that woman held in highest regard.

life is too short for quantity and not long enough for quality.

the most attractive submissive is a woman who holds herself with poise, self respect and dignity and wears her submission with powerful grace.

beautflstranger 2012

“The man who is proudly certain of his own value will want the highest type of woman he can find, the woman he admires, the strongest, the hardest to conquer, because only the possession of a heroine will give him the sense of an achievement, not the possession of a brainless slut.”

~ayn rand

(Source: , via the--darker-side)