firstsin:

I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately.

Responsibilities.

I don’t think we are especially aware of the meaning of it. We often don’t understand how much of importance we need to lay upon the fact that someone came to us, looked up at us and said “Here I am. This is me. Please, do take good…

firstsin:

coeriv:

we all have worries, anxiety. This is a fact of life.

Often i worry that my inexperience as a Dom will disappoint my kitten. yes we’re both learning together… but when i read posts about doms with their subs, how in control the doms are, how calm they seem, it makes me wonder.

One thing that is easily forgotten is that these Doms who seem to be in such control over their sub often are with them since months or years, which means there is a layer of familiarity. It is -far- easier to be in command of another person if you, in depth, know their every limit. Don’t let yourself be scared by that. It’s in your future, too.

I get so excited, and nervous. I don’t want to rush, or make mistakes, but i know that i will. I know that i might often loose myself in the moment and perhaps not give the type of control my kitten wants.

Because this is as much about Dom/Sub to me as it is about the caring, loving relationship we’re developing.

You’re still human.
Being Dominant doesn’t make you superhuman or a machine who knows all the answers, does all the right things at the right time. Sometimes you -will- lose yourself in the moment. It’s important to understand that it’s alright.

I held her hand the other day in the car while she drove, this struck me as somewhat odd for a dom, to hold a hand. It seems more the action of a boyfriend then anything else.

*smiles* not mutually exclusive. You can be a Dom and a boyfriend.

My kitten puts me at ease, very often regarding my worries. I can tell her anything, as anyone should be able to with their partner.

But sometimes i wonder what i want more. To be a Dom with her, or simply to be around her.

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Do i want to be a dom, because i need to feel that kind of control? or do i want to be a dom, because my kitten wants to be controlled?

For what it is worth it, some of the best Dominants I met started out as submissives. I think you have an unique insight into both sides of the coin, that can help you grow immensely with your Dominant side.

That said, for your own sake I think it’s important to soul search further into the reason for why you do it.

Subs aren’t the only ones who experience uncertainty. Doms do, too. It’s good to remember that, and this post really does that fact justice.

firstsin:

be-pleasing-always:

This is a response from ‘firstsin’ to a question from an Anon and IMHO a response full of good points, if you’re interested in the human and/or not necessarily sexual side of D/s. And indeed, IMHO, there is no ‘one size fits all’.

Some day tumblr will allow asks and responses to be rebloggable, but until then…

He’s my Master so I’m biased, but I really loved His response to this question.

firstsin:

This post is going to be hard to type…

Recently I talked with my puppycat about what kind of things he may want to write about. One of the topics that came up was how the last months changed his life, for the better as well as for the worse, since I do not assume that I miraculously made…

Master is so good to His pet for writing this. :)

firstsin:

Just a while ago, I received a PM, about a picture I reblogged, the text read:
“post/25766578606/ is a subdrop. I am very concerned that you didn’t recognize it.”

Let me say that I did see it, hence me saying: “Aftercare after an intense session.”, although I probably made the mistake of…

This post here is full of useful and important information about subspace, the subsequent subdrop, and what it requires from both Dom and sub to see it through.

firstsin:

When you start your way down the road of a submissive, or, at least, start to learn about how it is -supposed- to be, you’re going to be bombarded with certain images and ideas, especially online. One of these is that you are supposed to be passive. We all have seen the pictures of subs…

firstsin:

If we go by what pictures people reblog with the tags of “dominant”, then we can assume that their only job is to fuck their submissive, hard, fast, and rough and call it a day.

Reality it is not so.
In fact, these things people can have even without being in a D/s relationship of any…

This is a really good, informative post for Doms and subs alike.

firstsin:

My mind is racing.
It always is at this time. A look at the clock shows me that it is 4:51 AM. I am not really sure what I want to write about yet, so I keep on drifting back to the day earlier.

Lately the weather is pretty nice. We get a healthy amount of sunshine, some crisp, nice morning air,…

This is really lovely. There are fewer things that I love more than waking up from a nap with my Master sitting there, just waiting for me to open my eyes.

firstsin:

One of the things about D/s I really enjoy is the pet names.
Hell, I love calling my submissive “pet” in the first place.
Now it is true that you don’t need to be in such a relationship to come up with nice little nicks for each other, but I feel it carries especially weight in D/s.

For example…

firstsin:

Hello, readers. I’m puppycat - or at least, that’s what the owner of this blog likes to call me. I call him Master. My blog on tumblr is Observing Trifles. I’ve known Master for over two years now, but we’ve only been starting to get close for a portion of that time. Sometimes, it feels like…

An introduction post for myself that I wrote for my Master’s D/s blog. (I wanted to be able to find it on my own blog as well, so I reblogged it.)

firstsin:

It occurred to me that I never actually made a point to introduce myself.

Well, part of it may be that, as I started out, I didn’t really expect this blog to grow as it did (over 140 at this point, thank you all who read my rantings). I am a very arrhythmic blogger. Some weeks I post several…

Reading his blog makes me proud to be my Master’s pet.