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I AM…

sadisticsgirl:

In a d/s relationship.

I sleep in the same bed with him.

He made ME breakfast.

He takes me to my doctor appointments.

He turns on the heater when he notices I am cold.

He fills my water bottle every time he notices its empty.

He does the dishes.

He sometimes makes dinner. (and it’s always amazing)

He heals me in World of Warcraft. (I don’t care what you say, that’s love)

He comes home with candy to surprise me.

He hugs me when I ask, just because I want one.

He fixes things I break.

He hasn’t killed the cat because he knows I love her.

This list could go on for days.

It’s not about doing everything in the relationship as a submissive. It’s about being HIS everything, and making sure he is the happiest you can possibly make him.

So the stuff you see about subs not being subs because they won’t do EVERYTHING for their Dom is probably the most inaccurate bit of information you can give a person.

If a Dom does nothing for you, I question the ability for the sub to be happy. Always form your own opinion and look for information in more than one place. STAY SAFE and HEALTHY.

Take care <3

-Girl

Well-said.

I think a lot of people tend to forget that a D/s relationship is just that - a relationship. At its core, a D/s relationship is a bond between two people (or more people, if that’s what floats your boat). You take some, you give some; sometimes in that order, sometimes vice versa.

As a pet, I try to be the best I can be for my Master. That means giving all that I can to make Him happy and remembering that it’s okay to take a little, too. Subs have needs and wants, too, and I’m grateful to have a Dom who is only too happy to see to them.

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13 Mar 13

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fortheloveofasub:

littlepetimp:

My mantra.

“I trust Sir without reservation and must be transparent with him at all times.”

This short sentence speaks volumes to me. It means safety, security, freedom to think and feel with honesty and the ability to express that openly without fear of judgment. It doesn’t mean my thoughts and feelings are always rational, but it does mean that they will be listened to and acknowledged. It means that I am respected; valued. It means that I am allowed to own my feelings and that I can allow him to own his, too. It means I don’t have to tiptoe through landmines or walk on eggshells. It means I’m not allowed to hide. It means having a Master that I can count on; let go with. It means having a Master I can surrender to.

The sentences in this picture came about because of a misunderstanding - I didn’t realize that Sir hadn’t intended it as a punishment. Yet they were no less heartfelt as I wrote them, and the activity served as a reminder that it’s important for me to remember this at all times, no matter what else in my life gets in the way. The misunderstanding was merely an opportunity for growth, for both of us. As such, these pages are not a painful memory of failure, but a positive reminder of the amazing relationship we’ve built.

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23 Oct 12

obedientdoll:

Cicabel: Submissive Bill of Rights

Submissive Bill of Rights

You have the right to be treated with respect. Not only do you have this right, you have the right to demand it. Being submissive does not make you a doormat or less of a person than anyone else. The word “submissive” describes your nature and in no way diminishes you as a human being. You have the right to respect yourself as well.

You have the right to be proud of what you are. Being a submissive is nothing that should ever bring you shame or feelings of reproach. Your submissive nature is a gift and should always be a source of pride and happiness.

You have the right to feel safe. Being a submissive should not make you feel afraid, insecure or threatened. Submission is not about living on the edge orflirting with fear. In any situation you should feel safe or there can never be true surrender.

You have the right to your emotions and feelings. Your emotions and feelings come from you and they are just as valid as anyone else’s. You have a right to them. Those feelings, whether positive or negative, make you who you are and suppressing them will only bring unhappiness later.

You have the right to express your negative feelings. Being submissive does not make you an object that no longer has negative thoughts or concerns.Your concerns are real and you have every right to express them. If something doesn’t feel right, bothers you, makes you feel bad or you just plain don’t like something, say so. Failing to express your negative feelings could give the mistaken impression that you are pleased or satisfied with something that is not pleasurable or agreeable.

20 Oct 12

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twistedromantics:

Aftercare -

The time after a BDSM scene or play session in which the participants calm down, discuss the previous events and their personal reactions to them, and slowly come back in touch with reality. BDSM often involves an endorphin high and very intense experience, and failure to engage in proper aftercare can lead to sub drop as these return to more everyday levels.

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fortheloveofasub:

erospainter:

Dear Worried Dominant-Part II

Do you feel uncomfortable when you do things to your submissive?

Don’t be afraid of becoming a monster because the things you do to your submissive are done together with your submissive, it’s wished and longed for. Your Dominance exists together with the submission that you are given and that will make the journey controllable and your inner monster will not be set free to run rampage during a session because your submissive will not let that happen.

Your inner monster is tamed as long as you tune into your submissive and work from the responses you are given. When you enter the right state of mind, then you will be able to feel every breath that your submissive takes, you will feel every muscle in your submissive’s body – You will be in total control of every move and reaction.

All these things is what differs you from a real monster, because a real monster is never in control.

(via submissionandfetishism)

Girl vs. Whale: Tumblr Romance Debunked.

firstsin:

degaslamp:

arbitraryoutlet:

There’s something that has always stumped me about the TWC. The amount of crushes, romances, and for lack of better words incestuality. You can shake your head all you want, but we’ve all been guilty of falling a little too hard for someone a little too far away or a little…

I’ve had the same thoughts, many times. Anytime you’re talking to someone you’re infatuated with, and who shares your feelings, you eventually run into the moment where words naturally taper off. This is the point where you’re supposed to kiss. I swear, I think it’s hard-wired into our brains. The words stop because there’s something else you’re supposed to be doing with your lips.

And that’s exactly what usually happens when you’re face to face, but talking online short-circuits the whole process. All you can do is dig deeper, find more to talk about. Anything that will keep the conversation going, because that’s really the only option you’ve got. So you end up learning a lot about a person. Honestly, I think it might be better to start out that way. Distance is still a cruel bitch, though.

If that isn’t the truth.

(Source: the-vee-word)

07 Oct 12

24/7 love & submission: A Beginner's Guide to Dominating

bdsmeducation:

A Beginner’s Guide to Dominating

This is one of the few articles that I’ve found online that is actually decent in explaining how to decently start Doming.

The highlights of this article include:

The foundation of BDSM: Safe, Sane, and Consensual Play

Power Exchange:…

06 Oct 12

bdsmeducation:

Five Types of Submission - Interesting Article

I’d find it hard to believe that there could be only five types of submission, but this article is very convincing. I think it’s a good read - very thought provoking.

06 Oct 12

advice to a novice dominant

hisdarlinggirl:

Mr. Hatton and I both recently received identical questions asking for our advice on putting a Total Power Exchange dynamic into place. The questions came from someone identifying himself as Dom David and said that he hoped to get both of our perspectives (Dominant and submissive), which I thought was a very smart move on Dom David’s part. There are already too many my-way-or-the-highway type Doms out here and I appreciated that he would be interested in what I, as a sub, had to say on the matter.

I admit, however, that I’ve been putting off posting my answer. Not out of disinterest, but because I’d hoped that Mr. Hatton would have weighed in first. Unfortunately, I also know that Mr. Hatton has had so many irons in the fire lately that we all might be waiting for a long while.

And because my answers tend to be wordy (I try to give questions like these the attention they deserve), for the first time I am going to put the post below the break. It is a lengthy answer, with ten different points to be made, but a post where I hope that those who go on to read it will at least come away with food for thought, from a submissive woman’s perspective.

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05 Oct 12

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scarletrosefox:

Flogger Use and Safety from a Beginner Point of View

Floggers are what most people called any flexible many tailed striking tool. The tails are…

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fortheloveofasub:

fringeofdarkness:

On Aftercare.

I love this dance on the fringe of darkness. And I am intensely involved when I have my girl before me. Depending on the situation and her needs, it can involve both physical and emotional experiences. And when I hunger, it can be hot, hard, deep action across a wide range of stimuli and sexual activity.

Yet, when we are both finally sated, amidst a trail of the implements and clothes that serve as way points for the erotic journey of the day, the most touching part of the dance is upon us. Aftercare is how I show my love, appreciation, and support for my girl.

Let’s remember that she gives fully of herself in her submission. She may crave humiliation and objectification, and I may take her to some very dark places in the process. I may also subject her to physical challenges and hard use as I sate myself. Our dance can be totally immersing and intense.

This is why I try to make the last part of our pas-a-deux a warm, supportive, loving time of reflection. I curl her up against me, keep her very warm, stroke her hair, allow her to nuzzle, and give her gentle kisses and caresses. I will tell her how amazing and fearless she was, how proud I am of the way she served, and how incredible she made me feel with the gift of her body. I will ask about new experiences and have her reflect.

This is how I re-affirm the dance on the fringe of darkness as a intimate union between two equal, but opposite halves of the same coin. This is what makes me feel so fulfilled as a Dominant. And this is what makes a submissive feel loved, cared for, and appreciated in the gift of herself.

(via curiouspirate)

A little girl called cupcakes: Reasons for spanking

littlegirlcupcakes:

This text is not mine, but I highly agree with it :)

Author: Master Paddledom

I have thought for some time about the marvelous variety of spankings and the various results that can be achieved. Mixed with the proper caring and circumstances they can be a powerful psychological enhancer in so…

This is a really great, really thoughtful post. Spankings aren’t just for punishment!

30 Sep 12

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degaslamp:

adamslefttesticle:

It doesn’t always have to be about kink.

Sure I have kinks. One of which only Kitten knows. I like it rough. I like to be the dominant. I like to tie you up and tease you until you can stand it no longer and make you beg for me to let you come. I absolutely love to bend you over my knee for a well deserved spanking if you’ve been acting up. Even if you’ve been a good girl too. I love how my palm smarts just as much as your arse. I like to throw you on the bed and rip your panties half way down before fucking you senseless. Pulling your hair while grabbing your hips as I fuck you from behind.

I like to be the submissive. I like to be your naughty boy and not allowed to touch as you bring yourself off. I love having my hands bound to the headboard as you kneel over my face. Your dripping cunt, fingers deep inside mere inches from my toungue, forcing my head back down as I strain to taste you. Your smell driving me wild. And only when you think I’ve been tortured enough am I allowed to devour you and make you come. I love you using me as your toy.

I also love straight up love making. I love our naked bodies grinding slowly against each other. Our hands delicately roaming, grabbing. Our lips kissing, teeth biting and tongues licking, leaving nothing unexplored. I love our entwined hands. Our slow rythmic dance. The way our exhilarated hearts pulse and our laboured breath quickens. And how we meld into one in a cacophony of moans, whimpers, cries and sweat. Our bodies crumpled together in a heaving mess.

I love them both equally. Maybe you all do too.

I couldn’t have said it better.

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fortheloveofasub:

What does the BDSM Emblem mean?

The BDSM emblem has no “obvious” symbolism because it was created to be enigmatic. To the vanilla observer who would be put off by BDSM, it is merely an attractive piece of jewelry. Thus, we can wear it freely as a friendly salute, nod, and wink to other BDSMers we should happen to pass on the sidewalks and in the hallways of our daily lives.

To the insider, however, the Emblem is full of meaning.

The three divisions represent the various threesomes of BDSM. First of all, the three divisions of BDSM itself: B&D, D&S, and S&M. Secondly, the three-way creed of BDSM behavior: Safe, Sane, and Consensual. Thirdly, the three divisions of our community: Tops, Bottoms, and Switches.

It is this third symbolism that gives meaning to the holes in each unit. Since BDSM is at the very least a play style and at its greatest a love style, the holes represent the incompleteness of any individual within the BDSM context. However “together” and “whole” individuals may be, there remains a void within them that can only be filled by a complimentary other. BDSM cannot be done alone.

The resemblance to a three-way variation on the Yin-Yang symbol is not accidental. As the curved outline of Yin and Yang represent the hazy border between where one ends and the other begins, so do the curved borders here represent the indistinct divisions between B&D, D&S, and S&M.

The metal and metallic color of the medallion represents the chains or irons of BDSM servitude/ownership. The three inner fields are black, representing a celebration of the controlled dark side of BDSM sexuality.

The curved lines themselves can be seen as a stylized depiction of a lash as it swings, or even an arm in motion to deliver an erotic spanking. The all-embracing circle, of course, represents the overlying unity of it all and the oneness of a community that protects its own.

~ emblemproject.sagcs.net

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