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I'm a pet in a D/s relationship with a Master who calls me His puppycat.
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including my musings on D/s, sexuality, fashion, art, and all things cute.
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When I Talk About You Being Small

domwithpen:

I’m not talking about your body.

I can and I will control your body, regardless of its size, or your opinion of it. It belongs to me.

I’m talking about your metaphysical size. The size of you. The smallness that makes room for me, the space you create for my Dominance. I will make you smaller with my weight, with my will, with my being. I will extinguish all the fires and voices that defy me. I will fold you into me.

You just need to ask me to do it.

(via dxbaby)

25 Mar 13

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I’ve never really entertained the notion of being put in a cage, just because it’s never seemed particularly exciting to me. But if I was ever to be caged, I’d want it to look just like this.

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There’s nothing that commands my attention more than a strong, heavy chain leash.

Absolutely nothing.

(via his-littlekitten)

Lack of communication is one of the biggest issues in relationships. Be more brave and speak with each other early, otherwise, you’ll pile up stuff until the problem can’t be handled any more and things just explode.

Talk to me.

Never be afraid to tell me something important. I’ll understand. I’d rather know now than wonder, because it means that I can tick off one more thing on my list that I want to know about You.

Knowing that You’ll tell me what I need to know gives me the confidence to pour my heart out to You.

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Chains… I need to get a set of these one day. A nice, long, heavy set of chains that He can put on me and have me wear around the house, just for the satisfaction of hearing them clink and rattle every time I move.

(Source: dl-50, via a-delicious-torment)

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fortheloveofasub:

What does the BDSM Emblem mean?

The BDSM emblem has no “obvious” symbolism because it was created to be enigmatic. To the vanilla observer who would be put off by BDSM, it is merely an attractive piece of jewelry. Thus, we can wear it freely as a friendly salute, nod, and wink to other BDSMers we should happen to pass on the sidewalks and in the hallways of our daily lives.

To the insider, however, the Emblem is full of meaning.

The three divisions represent the various threesomes of BDSM. First of all, the three divisions of BDSM itself: B&D, D&S, and S&M. Secondly, the three-way creed of BDSM behavior: Safe, Sane, and Consensual. Thirdly, the three divisions of our community: Tops, Bottoms, and Switches.

It is this third symbolism that gives meaning to the holes in each unit. Since BDSM is at the very least a play style and at its greatest a love style, the holes represent the incompleteness of any individual within the BDSM context. However “together” and “whole” individuals may be, there remains a void within them that can only be filled by a complimentary other. BDSM cannot be done alone.

The resemblance to a three-way variation on the Yin-Yang symbol is not accidental. As the curved outline of Yin and Yang represent the hazy border between where one ends and the other begins, so do the curved borders here represent the indistinct divisions between B&D, D&S, and S&M.

The metal and metallic color of the medallion represents the chains or irons of BDSM servitude/ownership. The three inner fields are black, representing a celebration of the controlled dark side of BDSM sexuality.

The curved lines themselves can be seen as a stylized depiction of a lash as it swings, or even an arm in motion to deliver an erotic spanking. The all-embracing circle, of course, represents the overlying unity of it all and the oneness of a community that protects its own.

~ emblemproject.sagcs.net

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gentledom:

Anonymous asked: “How do you feel about alcohol and bdsm?”

It’s a combination I don’t like. As the Dom, I won’t drink any since I not only want but need to remain in control of myself all the time so that I can stay in control of the whole scene.

Besides, I want to enjoy with sharpened senses, not with lulled ones. Why would I numb my brain when I’m about to experience something awesome? For the same reason, I don’t want the sub to drink alcohol. She should also enjoy everything that will happen with a wide awake mind.

To me, it is also very important that the sub does what she does because she wants to do it, not because she loosened up enough through alcohol (or any other drug for that matter). If she would need alcohol to do something, I prefer she does not do it until she is ready to do it with all her mind since otherwise, she might regret it later and I want her to keep everything in good memory, not just some parts of the session.

It’s easy to say that alcohol enhances the experience for everyone involved, but this can be very dangerous. Sometimes, yes, drunk sex can be hot. Most of us have done it and enjoyed it. However, when sex involves things like BDSM-related activities, I would probably caution against it. BDSM activities require complete sobriety, in my opinion, for the safety of both Dom and sub alike.

Personally, I wouldn’t feel comfortable if my Dom was administering a spanking while intoxicated. Likewise, I don’t think He’d want me to submit solely because I had had a few drinks.

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There’s something primitive about biting that I really love. Maybe it’s because the person doing the biting is giving you a unique symbol of affection that you can’t take off. Like a brand that has to wear itself out. A bite mark isn’t like a piece of jewelry you can take off and put in your dresser. It’s temporary, but it’s emphatic, and it’s just for you.

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I always feel like such a lucky pet to have a Master who never fails to tell me that He’s proud of me when I earn it. He doesn’t just give things like that away. When He says, “I’m proud of you, pet,” I know he means it.

(Source: pink-el3phant, via dreamsinthyme)

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This one is just lovely. I usually like more basic collars, but it’s pretty.

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Dominance unlocked: Worries.

firstsin:

coeriv:

we all have worries, anxiety. This is a fact of life.

Often i worry that my inexperience as a Dom will disappoint my kitten. yes we’re both learning together… but when i read posts about doms with their subs, how in control the doms are, how calm they seem, it makes me wonder.

One thing that is easily forgotten is that these Doms who seem to be in such control over their sub often are with them since months or years, which means there is a layer of familiarity. It is -far- easier to be in command of another person if you, in depth, know their every limit. Don’t let yourself be scared by that. It’s in your future, too.

I get so excited, and nervous. I don’t want to rush, or make mistakes, but i know that i will. I know that i might often loose myself in the moment and perhaps not give the type of control my kitten wants.

Because this is as much about Dom/Sub to me as it is about the caring, loving relationship we’re developing.

You’re still human.
Being Dominant doesn’t make you superhuman or a machine who knows all the answers, does all the right things at the right time. Sometimes you -will- lose yourself in the moment. It’s important to understand that it’s alright.

I held her hand the other day in the car while she drove, this struck me as somewhat odd for a dom, to hold a hand. It seems more the action of a boyfriend then anything else.

*smiles* not mutually exclusive. You can be a Dom and a boyfriend.

My kitten puts me at ease, very often regarding my worries. I can tell her anything, as anyone should be able to with their partner.

But sometimes i wonder what i want more. To be a Dom with her, or simply to be around her.

—————————extra thought———-

Do i want to be a dom, because i need to feel that kind of control? or do i want to be a dom, because my kitten wants to be controlled?

For what it is worth it, some of the best Dominants I met started out as submissives. I think you have an unique insight into both sides of the coin, that can help you grow immensely with your Dominant side.

That said, for your own sake I think it’s important to soul search further into the reason for why you do it.

Subs aren’t the only ones who experience uncertainty. Doms do, too. It’s good to remember that, and this post really does that fact justice.

People hear D/s, BDSM, Master and slave, Dom and sub…and they think brutal beatings, chains, whips…

Don’t they also know it is this?

The look of pride he has on his face, looking down on the possession he holds most dearly, most treasured and in the highest regard.

And the look of pure adoration on hers, the peace and comfort she gets from kneeling at his feet.

D/s is both hard and soft, painful and soothing, happy and sad, fearful and comforting, loving and hateful…that’s what makes it so wonderful.

This. All of this right here.

A D/s relationship is so much more than kink. Yes, kink can play a part, but it’s not the only part.

(Source: letmekneel, via takenlilslut)

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I have no idea what it is about sensory deprivation (or at least blindfolding) that’s so appealing to me in a sexual context, but… it really is.

(Source: daddystigerlily, via fractalexplorer-deactivated2013)